No marriage that has stood the test of time has not tasted betrayals and shocking pain from spousal action.
Men in particular have been branded the worst of culprits in this regard, but ever since there has been DNA testing of children in the house, married women haven’t come out as angels either. Such misbehaviour has been the principal cause of separation, fights, and divorce between couples. The media in this geographical enclave reports hundreds of cases where couples have failed to forgive errors in marriage and opted to sever the ties.
This is a societal cause of concern. Nevertheless, whilst some divorce reasons may be serious or flippant, some spouses have forgiven each other for the most atrocious of marital sins. The marriages we see today—even those celebrating milestones—have untold stories where wives forgave husbands, or husbands forgave wives, for betrayals that many would not tolerate.
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There is a man out there who has not said anything about the worst he discovered about his wife that jeopardised their union. He is keeping his wife because despite it all, he still values her as a partner—and the marriage is doing simply fine. “Inhlitiyo ayiphakelwa,” so goes the adage, meaning that marriage thrives when built on forgiveness, trust, and love beyond mistakes.
Sometimes such forgiveness becomes a unifying thread for family, children, and their future. In a world where tenacity and patience seem void in marriage, some people still forgive their spouses for the gravest mistakes.
The Story of Mkhunkhuluti and LaMasuku
Mkhunkhuluti Ndzinisa believed he would one day leave all he had worked for to a son. With his wife LaMasuku, he had three daughters before finally having a baby boy. But when the child was in fourth grade, a shocking revelation came: the boy was not his.
His wife had cheated with a police officer. While everyone thought the marriage was over, he chose forgiveness after realising his own neglect as a husband. He kept his wife, raised his daughters, and continued his union. Few men would have endured such a wound to their pride.
The Pain of Infidelity
Every time a man cheats, a shift of loyalty and commitment occurs in his wife’s heart. Some ignore the signs, some forgive, while others leave. A man who slept with his wife’s sister lost her forever. Yet others, like Nonophile, forgave and even raised children born out of affairs.
Forgiveness Beyond Infidelity
Some betrayals are not sexual. Balayile Tsela squandered her husband’s business funds and nearly lost everything. Instead of divorcing her, he forgave her after she repented. Together they rebuilt their empire.
Such examples remind us that forgiveness—though painful and difficult—can sometimes save marriages and restore families.
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