Where there is conflict and fights, there are normally unfulfilled expectations from either party, whether such were explicitly expressed, promised, assumed, or inherent to the established relationship.
The same holds for love affairs and marriages. Two people get to relate and one fails to come to the party as per expectations. For those reasons, the woman you date today and are married to has been dated by somebody else; she could be a divorcee for that matter. There was a conflict with the ex-boyfriend, and they parted ways in a manner that wasn’t amicable.
In the love life you share with Gangisile Matsenjwa, her ex-boyfriend is still very much an integral part of your lives, for she still has unfinished business with him. You shall always be affected to the point that it may be a profound source sekucabana kwenu, nilwe nize nehlukane solo atse nca! kulesikelemu labahlukana naso.
You see, when a woman parts ways with a man, she decides that she will have nothing ever to do with the guy. No matter how many comebacks he makes, she can shut him off. It’s different when the guy has terminated the affair when she was still in love with him. The unfinished business she harbours with the gentleman will spill over to her affair with you because she will never lose sight of the guy.
Somehow, she develops telescopic eyes to see what he does, wherever he is and with whomsoever he chooses. Sisi lo, losagane wena ensures kutsi utsel’umhlabatsi emahewini alobhuti lowamala just so that he gets no peace in his life.
Abuse in relationships comes in many ways and platforms, and when your girlfriend has unfinished business with her ex-boyfriend, she can be emotionally abusive to the guy or offer herself to him at any time possible. Notwithstanding the fight she may have had with the guy when they separated, your woman keeps his contacts. She follows the guy on social media and can mesmerise an auditorium full to capacity updating them about the guy’s life.
When a woman you date or are married to is not yet done with an ex-lover, ubona ngendlela lamtfutfudla ngayo, alwe naye, ametfuke and all that. She is still very bitter; their affair came to an end, and she is not absolutely appreciative she has you now.
Dodololo Gamedze saw her ex-boyfriend with another woman at a music festival and they were holding hands. For God’s sake, she was also in the company of her new boyfriend. Lo and behold, she fished her cell phone and texted the guy:
“Maye yimbi lentfo lohamba nayo, ngakutjela ngatsi awuyoze uphindze umtfole lofana nami.”
Of course, the guy was not amused, but he kept his cool. It is usual for a woman to make faces, pass innuendos, and unpalatable comments should she bump into her ex-boyfriend in the company of another woman. The guy would be compelled kusala achazela lolokhona kutsi ngulolowahamba loloshwabulako.
If a woman has a beef with an ex-lover, she never pauses to think what that might mean to the incumbent boyfriend. If there is a child with the previous guy, she uses the child to fight her love tiffs and battles with the guy. She will make exorbitant demands in disguise as maintenance just so that she fixes the guy.
The expensive private pre-schools children are taken to have nothing to do with quality education. Uhulula imali kulesingani sakhe lesamala so he doesn’t enjoy life with his new partner. Each call she places for his reception akakhulumi uyahliphita. The woman is still in love with the guy and bitter he jilted her.
Part of your girlfriend’s unfinished business with her erstwhile love can be pursued clandestinely, yet the ultimate intent is to reach the guy. This is the lot that verily believe he still can come back and if he does, they jilt you babuyele emuva.
The woman still keeps close contact and communication with the ex-lover’s people, of course behind your back. To date, she buys groceries for the guy’s mum and calls his sisters bosikoni bakhe. She hopes they may put a good word for her with the guy for a proper reconciliation.
In those conversations with the would-have-been in-laws, who never were, they will discuss her ex-boyfriend’s affairs banyembenye the woman he would be dating currently, bamyenge sisi webantfu kutsi, “Vusi sewuyafuna kubuya kuwe yesikoni imane uyesaba.”
Scales will bet you a dime, a woman who still has feelings for an ex-boyfriend and wishes they got back together would never be good for anything with and for you — ngeke nje.
This guy got involved in a horrific accident and spent several days in hospital. Fumbatsile, an ex-girlfriend to the guy, spent all the days there helping him until he recuperated. At a point, a conflict ensued between herself and the guy’s incumbent girlfriend, kwangesuki lokwesijila lokwaliwa, who is said to have personally assumed some of the medical bills from her coffers.
A woman who has a hangover with an ex-boyfriend will mourn more than the bereaved if he happens kukhohlwa kuphefumula. If the guy is bereaved, she becomes so supportive of angatsenga lona lelibhokisi and further make providence of groceries for the entire week kufukenywe kulelikhaya.
She has been doing it for old times’ and love’s sake — ukhona wena njengesingani sakhe uhlahle emehlo.
Nobody knows and comprehends how your girlfriend’s body and sexual mind operate like her ex-lover(s). No matter the intensity of their differences, kungamcandvula lokwemuntfu given an intimate and close moment with her. Remember these people shared emotions and their bodies passionately before you came. They still can do so, in the presence of your absence.
Mntontomeli Maseko was a guy whose other expertise lay in understanding automobiles and their function. His ex-girlfriend Fundisiwe knew that and always kept it under the belt that each time she needed advice on that field, she wouldn’t hesitate to call.
This time around, she wanted to buy a vehicle and knew who was going to assist her navigate the process — wavele watsintsa Khubonye wakhe wakadzeni. The process demanded they travel to Johannesburg to identify, buy, and bring the car back with all the nitty-gritties needful.
The guy didn’t say no, and off they were, seated side-by-side in a kombi baya kwaNdongaziyaduma. They booked one room in a hotel prior to the intended business. Tacandvulana, kwashwaphana emashidi lamhlophe ebelungu.
Nothing was ever mentioned or considered about her current boyfriend. The business was done well enough, but there was a feeling they needed another sleepover, sponsored by the sublime pleasure enjoyed the previous night taphindze tashudzana emphini yaphansi.
Now, here is a woman, your girlfriend, you may even intend to make her your wife; she is making a major requisition in her life not with you but with an ex-boyfriend. As a boyfriend, you have never been involved, yet you are expected to clap hands and appreciate the acquisition.
This is to say, for whatever reason, when your girlfriend has unfinished business, she still can sleep with her ex-boyfriend while your relationship subsists.
