Women are creatures of fortune that they can smell wealth even if today they are swimming in abject poverty.
So long as they breathe, they harbour a deep hope that someday they shall be married to a rich man who shall colour their world with money, affluence and all the amenities that soften life.
Only those who believe they have no potential to accrue same from man desire to empower themselves so they can be self-reliant. This is not to say, however, that women will always get married to rich guys.
Oftentimes they would get this poor guy for a husband, who, however, has potential to get rich given his academic or business potential.
Or others would fail to exercise patience whilst the fella is putting his mettle together, but just jump unto a pool of timbasha for everyone to see kutsi ukhangwe yimali Khangezile kuleSkelm sakhe.
Once she is married to the guy it doesn’t matter what brought her there in the first place, all that would count is that she is the guy’s first lady and very much part of his fortunes. In today’s modern world no wealth accumulated, flaunted, and enjoyed can be void, at least of one or two vehicles.
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The rich guy will have big cars he is seen driving around in public to stamp his status, authority, and command over a good life everyone envies.
But then the guy has a wife who also enjoys wealth. If a woman has a rich husband, she is, by extension, also rich. What is the public’s opinion, comments, and subtle innuendos then when this woman drives around in her husband’s big, flashy, and sleek automobile?
Mntfwanamake as you pull out of the parking lot kuleyo ngcumangcuma yasibali ayakunyonkholota emadvodza and suddenly get terrified to make further advancement. In that car you are your husband’s epitome of wealth. Naloku bekufuna kunhhinhhitela kuyabindza for he realises he cannot afford you ahamba ngalesikhohloliya sakhe. Men will ever talk about a woman who is driving a big, flashy, and sleek car comprehending very well akusiyo yakhe.
They shall make comments that, Ubanjwa yiNgamla, uhamba ngezinkulu ezimiz’uDiesel. Unless a woman in this pool of wealth is amiable and amicable to you as a man, a friend, or a colleague, they remain unapproachable.
They are wealth wrapped around their immaculate fingers, flaunting the car keys to the most expensive Peruvian hairpiece crowning their heads.
Most men have sustained their marriages by making massive providence to their wives from big houses, fine clothes and giving them access to big cars they drive at will.
Holding all these factors constant, the woman would have long left the stable ngoba kute umtfongwane kulomfokati noma sitofu singabaswa sifike ekugcineni in the bedroom. Women in general envy their sisters who disembark from such huge cars in the malls, parties and schools dropping or picking their children. “Bayajabula bantfu yebonine, timoto letingaka, hhawu mine nganayi yababe waBagangile, intfo yekuchilitwa onkhe lamalanga,” lamented LaHlandze waNduku seeing Sethu in her hubby’s flashy Mercedes Benz pick-up van. Few people get to understand the sacrifices the said driver makes to attain such status.
She may be putting up with the most abusive husband or cold nights because of lomuntfu ushiya tikhiya temoto kunyamalale yena. Others face gory ritual processes babambisa lendvodza that the wealth is sustained. The vehicle is the only consolation and behind closed doors life can be sordid for the woman.
You are not going to write off the status being ephemeral for economic scales can be tipped against the husband at any given time, idliwe libhange yonkhe lentfo lokhukhumele ngayo!
Family members will always favour a sister who comes home visiting in this big, massive automobile.
She will be standing by her vehicle and they all come running to her and utawukhomba konkhe ngesikhiya semoto.
From that car mountains of groceries shall be taken to the house, and her mother would gloat inside. Nonhlanganiso came from a polygamous family and each time she came and parked in front of her mother’s house, the others would peep through windows babuka kutsi wehlisani.
On this day she called a child from every house from her father’s three other wives and started distributing groceries.
Her junior mothers were joyful and had all the good things to say about her. You see, the wealth and the wheels of a rich man can be extended to his wife’s people, and she gets blessed for same.
Neighbours are very cognisant of a village girl, who prior, they have known in tattered uniform and shrunken dresses going to the terminal to catch the only bus in the village.
The transformation from such life to now never ceases to amaze them and they will surely make their two cents comment! “Cha iyamsebentela intfo yakhe,” or her mother gave her a powerful juju that her husband gives her everything she demands.
They will also envy her as she passes by in the village ababhunyisela ngetintfuli. The woman will stop her car, roll down the window and greet bomakhelwane, exchanging meaningless pleasantries all to flaunt the big machine she drives.
She is further going to be a spectacle for envy and celebration at village weddings and funerals even when she comes around in the car. Everyone wants to see what contributions would be, given the huge car she drives!
Societal Scales can bet you a dime, not everyone will envy this woman.
Others are jealous and full of vendettas she drives that car. These are other women, younger girls even, who have enjoyed a ride in that very vehicle because bagane lomnumzane wakhe.
They call her unpalatable names each time they see her, “Lesalukati saThemba, lenkubukazi yemfati wakhe, lesilima semfati”, the list is endless.
She may not get to hear all this, but the social media platforms are sure going to give her an indicator of what is said behind her back because of her being seen in her husband’s big car.
Sosobele, uLaManyatsi had just emerged from a hyper supermarket in town when she found a woman younger than her standing by the driver’s door.
Puzzled by the spectacle of this beautiful damme whose face she was not familiar with, she delayed opening the vehicle to which the woman provoked her to. “Vula lemoto kukhona tintfotami lengatishiya la.”
There was some altercation where after she opened the car and the lady dived inside.
She came back with some shiny earrings she fished from some small compartment in the car. She further boasted, “Siyayigibela natsi lemotole, siyishayele futsi, ungadvwali ngelite nje wena”. Bodzadzewetfu, those big cars you drive and that your husband bought are accessed by their girlfriends too.
No sooner would you have parked than someone would be standing by the door and when you roll down the window, she realises it is a woman not the owner.
The glory that comes with driving your hubby’s big car comes with the agony of sharing it with competitors – other women.
On their own most women would buy smaller cars which they can afford to maintain and fuel. Lezi ezinkulu, zobaba and they pay for the rides in kind!
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