No matter how well-meaning close members of the family can be, socio-economic status has compelled them to do so much but not more for their children. Others have fallen below scale due to a sense of irresponsibility towards those they are legally obliged to take care of.
Believe Societal Scales here, most people would not be where they are academically and professionally had it not been for people outside the ambit of family, some would still be illiterate, indigent and placed down in the rungs of economy ladder.
In the days where society believed girls had no place in the classroom, the church came through for a few of them just so that they could be at least, teachers, nurses and clerks. Big and sophisticated jobs were reserved for the masculine gender and some of them did very well in that space.
Speaking of women having benefited from religion, a lot of them now have survived through romantical attachment. They have been pulled from their financial doldrums by men they have dated who have given them a lifeline by, say, putting them through school, tertiary to placing them in corporate officers and corporate ladders.
The women referred to here are not necessarily married to these romantic, ‘Good Samaritans’ but in the event the affair subsisted the guy went out to give her life, which her parents’ and relatives could not afford to.
Men have done a lot for women they have dated when they were at their worst. The imbalance, however, lies in that always, women will never do anything for a man even if he is at his lowest. The guy she shuns would be the one who catapulted her to wuthering economic heights she ignores.
Gentlemen Mgagabuli Hlatshwayo of Bulunga used to admire this beautiful young lass passing by his place going to a school down the foot of the mountain. He was further impressed by her zeal for school, for notwithstanding her matured teenage years she tenaciously attended secondary schools with pupils much younger than her.
This year he suddenly realised there was scarcity of her physique passing by ngalolukhondvovane lwalunyatfutwa bantfwana bakulesikolwa. He enquired and discovered she had dropped out because the family was destitute and could not afford the fees. Rumour from village has it that he sold two of his pregnant goats, settled the school fees and the woman resumed classes.
He further approached the TEBA Offices and picked up a job in the mines in RSA and took care of the woman’s education from that level until she qualified as an accountant from the local university. Instantly she was engaged by lelinye lijaha laseMahlangatsha equally educated.
As fate would have it, the guy lost both his legs in a mine accident and was rendered incapable of executing his duties. By which time he was brought home, the woman was about to get married. She would do as little as checking on him on his current medical condition.
Later in the years, the woman became successful in her career, got promoted to significant financial positions and not once did she ever look back to the crippled man who gave her all. Kuyabehlula bantfu besifazane kubuyisela tandla when those who assisted them in life are experiencing a similar predicament to theirs before.
The inability is even conspicuous when the benefactor is a man they have been dating at their lowest. Guys have a knack to build the women they date and not themselves whilst they are in their prime.
You see, there never was in a woman’s DNA, an ounce to take care of a man especially when she must spend her money on him. Some social media saying has it that when as a husband you have E200.00 and your wife has E300.00 the sum of both amounts is E200.00. Your wife’s money shall never be yours and never count on it.
On improper scales of balance, your very wife, like your girlfriend will never do for you at your worst economic element what you did for her whilst she was at her lowest.
You can cheat your woman all you want so long as you have a bigger financial muscle than hers and she benefits from same. But mfanawababe, she will divorce you, first twe, should you become broke, or lose your job. Just when you thought she knew nothing about your shenanigans, utakukhumbuta sewushayekile nkalakatha and give you names of all the women you were fraternising.
It ain’t about the women and your infidelity, truth be told. Ubona kutsi sewutabayihhontji yekondliwa nguye kantsi akanakuyichoncha! For many divorces orchestrated thus far, it has been women who would not look after their unemployed spouses. This is contrary to a scenario where madam would be fired, unemployed/unemployable and becomes a housewife.
The husband will do anything and everything for her. Some have been in the house for ages driving the biggest automobiles bought by their husbands. Ayibali lutfo indvodza nayondla umkayo.
These sisters designed after Eve will count down every spoon scoop of food going down your throat nasekutsengwa yimali yakhe lokokudla. She does not mind feeding her children, her people too hhayi wena uyindvodza yakhe lengasebenti.
Mfafabuli Tsabedze found all his clothes packed unto a refuse plastic bag and was asked to vacate the house ayofuna umsebenti by his irate wife LaMaseko!
Women can tell a difference between a sponsor and a lover. They will be loyal to you so long as you are useful to them.
The worst of their imbalance in a love affair with men is that they are always looking for better. In the event they can predict everything about you— that you shall ever be there, committed and giving without fail, they become bored and look for a fresh masculine challenge.
Bodzadzewetfu abawanatsi emaphilisi ingababulali inhloko. When a man they date has solved their immediate and basic problems, they would have no further need for his presence in their lives.
Men would do better for themselves if they were to comprehend that before they become sponsors to their girlfriends. If a man were to assist a woman financially it must be far and way off any romantic expectations. That a woman can ditch a man after he would have economically tied himself to her needs is very much indicative money is not necessary in nurturing love between couples. If anything, it can spoil the fun. The woman would want your money, and she gives her love to another fella longamniki lutfo.
Think of a guy who splits his salary for his girlfriend upkeep, education and welfare and does nothing for himself as little as buying food. Bakhona bazizi labanjalo like Mkekembane Fakudze who went on to buy his girlfriend a refrigerator.
Where he rented, eMhobodleni, KaKhoza, umshibo wemaChickens pieces abewucelela kaNdzimandze makhelwane wakhe. Someday he visited his girlfriend, when he opened the same refrigerator, she was angry, “Uvula lapho ufakeni yako?” Lesigubhu selichwa sasigcwele imfowane yemabhodlela etjwala and he was a teetotaller himself.
The writing on the wall, there was another man who came to this apartment futsi uyadronka!
