Sumamary 1. This opinion piece argues that even the most faithful and provident husbands are not immune to being cheated on, as wives are just as capable of infidelity as men. 2. The author suggests that women often cheat due to emotional connections, accidental encounters, or dissatisfaction, and when caught, they frequently shift the blame to their husband's shortcomings. 3. Ultimately, the article claims that societal changes and increased exposure to the world have made it easier for married women to pursue affairs, regardless of how "good" their husbands are.
No man is exempt from being cheated by his wife no matter how good, faithful and provident a husband he can be.
Not even all the powers bestowed upon a human being in a masculine body can deter a woman to give it to another man if she so desires.
Those wives you trust and adore so much have all the will to cheat on you someday if they haven’t started already. Whilst men are known for being merchants of cheating in marriage, their wives have never been saints. Their innocence is latent in never being caught, never having gotten the opportunity yet or scared losing massively when caught. In a fair scale of balance, married women cheat like their husbands.
At some point in time, even the cheating woman would not necessarily be a bad person, but have been in some circumstance leading her to this societal unbecoming behaviour. Out of guilt, husbands hardly confront their wives on cheating. They would almost always ignore blatant behaviour of the woman indicative she has shenanigans.
The latter carries empirical evidence of the husband’s infidelities wena ndvodza yakhe ube ute lutfo loluphatsekako. The point here is that society would always believe there is something wrong with the man for his wife to cheat. It is either he has done this or came short here or there. Don’t beat yourselves majita, she still can cheat anyway whatever you are or give her.
Women are no longer confined within the house or the homestead and their availability put unto scarcity. They are globetrotters today and exposed to lots of other men better than yourself – her husband.
Gentleman Billy assisted a woman pick her groceries from the trolley and they ended up sharing the same seat in a minibus. Their chats were innocent, general and deepened as both conversation and the journey continued. Both were professionals, married and owned vehicles. For some reason they chose public transport that day.
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After an exchange of numbers when they parted, conversations on their gadgets increased and became warmer and even romantic. It was clear to the guy that the woman was very much interested in him and given so much romantic ground for advancement he pressed further.
They were seeing each other soon after deliberate planning on the part of the woman and they were soon making love. To this date, they are still at it, the husband doesn’t know anything about it and the woman has no intent to stop it. You see, a woman’s cheating can be completely innocent. It had not been intended, planned let alone wanted. Kwesuke nje kwachamuka nang’ umfokati, wamengama inhlitiyo. Your wife will accidentally come across another good man when you are a good warm body as a husband yourself. She will be sauntered into his good looks, charm and other masculine embellishments and when the fellow sees her weak knees towards him, he shall strike.
The lady had never known the guy before, but was smitten all the same. Here is a catch, in the event you find out about this affair, your wife will blame you for having cheated on you. She will mention konkhe lolokwentiwa ngulomfokati kuye longakwenti wena. It then becomes your fault that sewutsetse umcukutfu wakho Babe Maziya wawunika Ndlangamandla. Believe Scales here, all she would mention you are guilty of can be factual but not truthful. She would have cheated anyway without that.
Or she has always been targeting that guy for he is ever proximity to her physique. Society must comprehend that women are stronger than men in a romantic advancement, once a lady sets her eyes on this particular guy, she will solidify every ground he walks in, so his steps are directed towards her.
Should the guy’s interests be mutual iyawulala ibonene ngalelinye lilanga kumshudvo wemphi yaphansi. You see, in varied degrees, all married women have fancied certain men at work and that would lead to office romance, others have fancied fellow congregants, umkakho ayibuke ayihawukele lendvodza lecimetile ithandaza and she swims erotic thoughts kubesekuba kubanjwa ngilo izwi lenkhosi.
Others have crossed floors to other men they frequently meet at workshops or any other society. She certainly has done her calculations on how she will create time for this guy. Her duty kudoja wena as her husband and the other man will see how he escapes his wife’s claws to be with her.
What then can you do with your wife’s love for another man lambona onkhe malanga and feels her heart is on fire? She will drop herself unto clutches of the guy nemkhwembetsi wakhe imbala and finds it natural and inevitable.
Whilst there could be a paradigm shift in the prospect she views you as a husband, she may not necessarily mean akasakufuni. She will give you a fragmented apology nawumbamba. She is sorry, she didn’t mean to, but “Nguwe babewaMcacambi longente ngize ngilingeke, ute sikhatsi nami.” Men have been pacified with such accusations so much that they would forgive them. Akayekeli le kulomzizi, she will stop the day inhlitiyo yakhe inyatsa ngalomfokati.
Or she emotionally stripped herself naked for another man who could be your brother, a cousin, a colleague, or an ex-boyfriend. She talks to them about the things you ain’t which she misses in your marriage.
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Whilst she acknowledges that you are a solid family man and holding your forte in responsibilities she believes you lack all she wants in a man. Bancumile Tsabedze once confided to an ex-boyfriend, she was suffering nostalgia from their relationship.
“Lomuntfu akangenti lentfo bewungenta yona.” The talk was laden with the man’s failure in bed that apart from the procreation of children there was nothing spectacular in their sex life.
You can’t divulge such sensitive information to another, and he doesn’t encroach unto your husband’s lane.
Any woman, single even, who exposes her emotional vulnerability harbours love feelings for that guy.
For her to win the sympathy alolotekelwa lobuhlungu, she must speak ill of the husband, make him a monster, uncaring or lacking in all marital and romantic amenities. This guy had been out of work for five years without the fortune to be placed elsewhere. He had accorded all his savings to his wife, so she took care of things.
Whilst he was searching for a job, she approached this big guy she often met at professional level and poured her sorrows. He gave her money and started assisting her transport children to schools outside the country, all behind the husband.
To the shenanigan Mgagabuli Mabuza her husband was a total failure, “Akawufuni nemsebenti uhonce lapha endlini mine ngibhadala konkhe.”
You see a cow will not feed on your grass and refuse with its milk. Each time a man is amenable to give a woman money, married for that matter, he shall have access to the honeypot singularly reserved for her husband.
Men are weak once caught they have been cheating, especially if he still loves his wife. In an improper scale of balance women will vehemently defend themselves when caught in the act and pile all the blame unto your failures as a husband for cheating on you!!
